Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

This past Mother's Day weekend, I had the pleasure to be in a play called "Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places." It was written, choreographed, and produced by Melissa Huggins, who is a native of New Jersey. Melissa and her crew, Tracy White & Dawn Johnson, all moved to Charlotte a year ago for a change of scenery. Mrs. Huggins is the founder of Body Language Productions in 1982, which is a Christian based.

I have been in many performances before, but I have really enjoyed working with this group of performers. We all have seem to left our egos at the door. We seem to listen to one another. No one has ever tried to be a Chief when they were an Indian. We gave each other constructive criticism and therefore we grew as performers. We encouraged each other when someone was lacking.

The play went well. It was performed at the Boothe Theatre inside the Blumental in Charlotte, NC May 6 and May 7 at 8pm. Every night I came home smiling because I knew I was working, but having fun. Everyone stepped up their game. I now have a theatre family, just like my dancing family. A few years ago, I had a horrible experince with a theatre cast, and now I have come out of my shell. Thank-you everyone. I can't wait to see everyone two weeks from now at the cast party. Love ya'll. =)

Did God Program Men to Cheat?

A few weeks ago, I had a conversation with one of my guy friends. He said even though he has a girlfriend and a beautiful baby, he has this inkling to want to sleep with more women. He said God made him want to cheat and that maybe we aren't supposed to be with one person our whole lives. My first response was, "Wow! I didn't know God would make anyone want to cheat on their significant other?" But this is what I told him:

"God did not make us to be pimps or whores. He did not make us to want to indulge with many sexual partners. It is us, who do not have self-control. We are so into, we have to have the best of everything, even have the baddest and best men/women on our arms. Sex is not meant to be game of who can get the most points and the most number of people."

I'm so tired of people making excuses for why they cheat. It is not right to cheat. If you do not want to be in the relationship anymore, just say it. I'm sure your mate will be hurt a little by you telling the truth, but will be devastated if you stay and make the cheating your mate's fault. People just need to take more responsibility for their actions.

By the end of our conversation, my guy friend realized he was to blame for wanting to sleep with more women. I'm not sure if he cheated or not, but I hope he didn't. I think everyone has their own flaws and we have our own temptations. We have God to help us not to indulge in our temptations. God did not program us to cheat! God programed us to be monogamous people.

Do you think God program men (man and woman) to cheat? Let me know your opinion. Thanks!

African-Americans vs. Ourselves

The other day I was watching this video on high school kids talking horribly about one another. Its the age old duel of dark skinned people vs. light skinned people. WTF? Its 2011 and we still are hating on each other. African-Americans are the only race who hate on each other no apparent reasons. We seem not to want to help each other because of fear the other person will get higher up on the chain of life.

We have taken what the slave master has done and said to divide us and we have kept the division. During slavery, the slave masters would breed us like animals because we were seen as property and even treated worse than animals. Slave masters would rape us and once the mixed children arrived, they would divide us by color so we wouldn't communicate with each other. They called us black back then, meaning evil, so that we can feel and think we are inferior to them.

During the Civil Rights Era, we really learned how to stick together as a race. We trusted one another and if a person was lacking, we would make sure there was help around the corner. Now, we just act as though the civil rights era didn't exist. Some of us walk around as though we don't have any home training. We cuss, argue, and murder each other at a drop of a dime. Though every race gets their language, style, music, everyday living items, etc...from us, they are laughing at us.

We need to change our way of thinking. Here are some ways:

(1) Children do not see color, they are taught to see it.---We need to show our children that every race and color needs to be accepted. No one color or race is greater.

(2) We, African-Americans, need to learn how to love one another.---We are not each other's enemy. We have to learn how to stick together. For example, I never see a Jewish-American hate on another Jewish-American. They would actually help the other get a job or help the other out spiritually and emotionally.

(3) We also need to learn how to respect one another.---When I was growing up, you couldn't talk back with out getting the tate slapped out of your mouth. We need to teach these kids who are having babies how to raise their children. Don't think that once your teenager birth's a child you are done raising your child. Don't let them fend on their own.

(4) We need to get our focus back on God and not on who has the most money. We need to learn how to love ourselves.

So, in ending, God didn't make us to hate one another and/or ourselves. Be grateful for your life and don't take it for granted.

P.S.- If you want to see the video here it goes: http://youtu.be/ev5v59k0uMc

Living in Freedom

Living in Freedom

As I was growing up, I was rejected by many people because I had a medical problem. To them, a medical problem means I am weak and I might be contagious. All my life I have been trying to fit in this realm of society. But I have been reading my Bible, Joyce Meyer’s Enjoying Where You are on the Way to Where You are Going, and William Paul Young’s The Shack, and realized that God has freed me to live a life without boundaries. I no longer feel I have to fit in. I am my own person.

Most of my life I have struggled with understanding God and I why I had to go through much physical and emotional pain. As my spiritual bond with God gets stronger, Galatians 5:1 tells me how God sent Jesus to set me free. I need to stand firm and don’t let others burden me again. I don’t need any man to confirm that I’m free to be me because Jesus already has done it. What people say and think of me shouldn’t burden me at all. God made me just the way I’m supposed to be.

We as humans are to live as free men, but we shouldn’t use our freedom as a cover up of our sin. We need to live as servants to God. So in 1 Peter 2:16, God is telling me that I need to be myself and live free, but I shouldn’t use my freedom as a way to do what I want to do. It’s all about God and being in his will. I can’t do anything without a consultation with God. So since God’s Spirit is everywhere then there is freedom everywhere. As in 2 Corinthians 3:17, God is with us, everywhere I go, so I’m free to go and be whoever I choose to be. God and I set my own standards. So, there is nowhere I can ever feel rejected.

We are free, but don’t let our freedom indulge in sin. We are to serve one another. Galatians 5:13 is where God is telling us how we are here to help one another. We need each other more than we think. We are six degrees of being separated from the next person we meet. So, take the time out to help someone and/or just pay it forward.

As we pay it forward God says in him and through our faith we can obtain our freedom with confidence (Ephesians 3:12). So, the next time someone makes you feel uncomfortable or is just rude and says something mean to you, just know God is there with you and you are free to be the person God has rightly made.

President Obama's Birth Certificate

So, Mr. Donald Trump basically got kicked in the ass for making claims that President Obama is not a U.S. citizen because Obama didn't show his birth certificate. If Trump was as smart as he claims, he would have known that every U.S. citizen has a social security number and if the birth certificate is lost the social can pin point where the person was born. Trump should have also known in order for someone to be the President of the U.S., they must be a U.S. born citizen. The government puts the candidates through an extensive background check.

Donald Trump is an idiot and a racist. The ladies on The View were right when they said that Donald Trump can't fathom how a black man can be so smart. Umm....Mr. Trump all of us aren't on welfare, on drugs, and illiterate. Yes, Mr. Obama did get to Harvard on his own because he is intelligent. Mr. Trump just needs to shit down and shut the fuck up! He makes me not proud to be an American.

To me, ever since President Obama has come into office, everything and everyone wants to tarnish his administration. First off, if he didn't have the credentials then he wouldn't be President. Secondly, Please stop blaming President Obama for the economy. President Obama inherited a horrible economy. If it took us 8 years to get us into this economy problem, then I'm sure its going to take another 8 years or more to get us out. Thirdly, President Obama is trying the best he can to get the troops out of war. The person you should put your anger to is former President Bush. He put us in a war for no apparent reason other then someone wanting to kill his father. Its always been a war about oil since the Bushes are in the oil business with the Bin Ladens.

I am proud of my President Obama. I praise him for always taking the high road. President Obama keep doing a great job! What do you think?

The Resurrection

Every year we, for the people who follow Jesus Christ, are giving another chance to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus. The resurrection means something different to each and every one of us. Let me tell you what Jesus' life and resurrection mean to me.

When I was growing up, I was raised in the church. We didn't go to church 24/7 but I was there often enough to have it make an impression on me. Since I was different, have a heart problem, many people bullied me and I started second guessing why God put me on earth. I used to be really angry as to why I couldn't be like a normal person and be able to breathe. With all the physical pain I went through, I used to think maybe God hated me. Maybe I did something to God and he is angry at me. I was so confused and hurt for a long time even though I continued to go to church.

Once I saw the movie The Passion of Christ, I realized just how much more physical pain and ridicule Jesus went through than me. He died so that I will never have to sacrifice an animal every time I sin. I can go to him whenever I want and he will always understand me more than anyone else. He loves me so much that he gave his life for me.

Since he loved me that much, I participated in lent this year. Lent is the Christian tradition: preparation of the believer through prayer, repentance, alms giving, and self-denial. Many Christians give up food or just meat. Since, I can't give up food, I gave up all the thing I most like to do. Now, I have a stronger bond with him and my mind is so clear. I can make the best informed decisions for me.

Last Easter, I spent it burying my grandma and I will never forget it. Four years before that my uncle past around this time, too. I could have ended up hating Easter, but I understand that when it is your time to go, its your time. They are in a better place now, the best place! I have learned to keep living because my life isn't over with, yet. I have also learned that life is precious and you must not take it for granted.

So, this Easter I will be with my family enjoying everyone. I'm looking forward for church, fellowship, and of course the food! Having a relationship with Jesus, makes me want to be a better person. I hope this Easter you enjoy your family and also remember what the resurrection is all about.

Your Health

I have some issues about people's health I want to address. The first thing is about women. A couple of doctors have told some of my friends that its not recommended to have a physical/pap smear once a year. Now, I don't know why these doctors would say that but I have a cousin who is a gynecologist, a grandma who is a retired nurse, and an uncle who is a retired physician. They have always told me that once a woman becomes sexually active, she should get a physical/pap smear once a year. Women, you want to make sure that you don't have an std like (HPV) Human papillomvirus which is very common for both women and men. There are 200 known types of HPV that cause no symptoms in people but can lead to cancer of the cervix, vulva, vagina, and anus in women. You also want to make sure you don't have any other STD and make sure the vagina is still in tact.

I have also heard some women don't chart their cycle, but it reality it helps. It helps you to be in tuned with your body. It also helps you figure out what is going on in your body. For example, if I didn't chart, the doctors wouldn't have found the fibroid and get it fixed. Also, I have noticed stress is a big killer of women. We women need to learn how to relax. We need to learn how to find a hobby that will make us happy and help release all the tension in our bodies.

Now, on to men. Men are a piece of work when it comes to their health. They don't want to go and get a physical because they feel bending over is not masculine. So, they rather keep getting sick just so they can say they are real men. Please, get over yourselves. Bend over to get your prostate a exam once a year or keep letting your medical bills keep you in debt. I would rather be healthy. Men can also catch HPV, too. It can lead to cancer in the anus. Also, men over 45 need to have a colonoscopy every three years. Men 55 and over need have a colonoscopy every year, especially if your family has a history of cancer.

Last thing, I want everyone to know their status when it comes to sex. If you are grown enough to lay down, then you should be grown enough to be responsible for your own health. I'm so tired of hearing how people make excuses as to why they have an STD. It's different if you get it during a bllod infusion. If you aren't married to someone, then use a condom all the time. Birth control pills don't protect you from getting an STD. It just prevents you from getting pregnant.

I hope this blog gets people to be more in tuned and be more responsible for your own health. I want you to have a long healthy life and you should want the same.