How To Maintain and Grow Permed Hair

I have noticed many black women have permed hair and some don't know how to take care of it. I have had permed hair for 15yrs and I would like to give my tips on maintaining & growing permed hair. Here are the tips:

(1) When To Get Your Perm: You should get your perm every 7 or 8 weeks. It gives your roots time to grow and breathe. It also saves you money. Make sure when you get a perm, get a keratin treatment. The keratin treatment helps strengthen your hair, help your hair grow, and give your hair body.

(2) Washing Your Hair: You should wash your hair every week & 1/2 to two weeks. I found that if you wash your hair every week, it dries your hair out. All the vitamins are drained out and makes your hair weak. Use a conditioner you have to wash out. Leave in conditioners will make your hair very weak. Make sure you sit under a dryer with your conditioner for at least 20mins.

(3) Products to Use: Make sure you read your labels and also make sure the product  has a low percentage or no alcohol at all. You can use mousse. Make sure it is a Non-Alcoholic Mousse.The mousse should allow you to use it on wet and dry hair. It should not dry your hair out, but give your hair body.

(4) Braids and Weaves: Do Not Get a Weave or Braids The Same Day You Get A Perm! The weave and/or braids will pull your hair out. It can give you bald spots.Your hair may not grow back. You should wait until you have new growth to get a weave/braids. Plus, wearing a weave/braids all the time is not only heavy to your roots but a financial burden.

(5) Curling Irons: Curling Irons are not good for your hair at all. If you need to curl your hair, you should get heated rollers or or ceramic curling irons or use the soft curlers at night. Heated rollers give you the warm look without the excessive heat on your hair. Once you put the soft curlers in at night, when you wake up you should either wrap your hair or just run your finger through your hair. Ceramic curling irons are for when you need fresh curls in a hurry.

(6) While You're Sleeping: Wearing a silk or satin scarf at night will let your hair breathe and your hair will end up growing. Do not used bandannas! If you have a headache or feeling ill or just forget to put your scarf on, sleep on a silk or satin pillow case. It will not dry your hair out and your ends will not split.

So, these are my tips. Make sure you get a trim when you get split ends.Cutting the dead hair off will make your hair grow faster. Let me know if these tips have helped you. Also, let me know if there is a tip you would like to give. Talk to you next time. Lata!

Encouraging You To Vote!

We have 63 days until Election Day, Tuesday November 6th. If you are 18yrs and older make sure you are a registered voter. I'm encouraging all my African-Americans, Native Americans, Latino Americans, and Asian Americans to vote. Many people don't fully understand how others have marched and died for us to have the right to vote. Sometimes, we take for granted that we always had the right to vote and we will always have the right to vote in the future.

We don't know what the future holds, but we must take the advantage to voice our views. As of right now, there is that 1% of the population that rules the nation. If we, the 99%, don't get out there and vote our civil & voting rights wil be surpressed. There is strength in numbers and numbers don't lie. So, if majority rules, we must show the 1% where we stand and out rule them.

I encourage you to take these 63 days and research who you want to vote for. Make sure you vote for the right person that will carry out your views and fix the issues you face. Don't let anyone discourage you from voting because all citizens have the right to vote!

A New Year

Ladies and gentlemen, we have come upon a New Year! Since the New Year I have learned much about life. Never take your life for granted. In the past 24hrs two young men I knew, one 16 & one 28, have died. Life is short. You have to stop and look at what kind of life you live because whatever energy you give off to the universe, positive or negative, it come back to you. The life I want to live is the one God intended for me.

I have learned, the more material things you accumulate makes you the envy of all, according to the human society. But if you want your soul to be with God when you die, you need to form a strong relationship with God. So what, you missed a sunday or two at church. Church is a place for you to worship God and fellowship with others while you worship God. The church building is just a building. You can have church anywhere. Jesus said in Matthew 18:20, "For where two or three gathered in my name, there I am with them."

On another note, who are we to say which religion is right or wrong? I think the many different religions are just a division and diversion to get the human race to think one religion is better than the other, instead of coming together. With all the tragedies happening around the world in the last decade, God is trying to tell us how we need each other more than we think. We need to stop harming one another over stupid things. We need to look at what we are doing, change ourselves, and then help others.

This New Year, I don't have any resolutions. I just pray to God I become a Proverbs 31 woman and I treat people how I want to be treated. No more looking in the past. Life is too short. I just need to focus on the present and have faith and hope for my future.

What are you planning to do for the New Year? Pleas tell me. I would love to know.

Know Your Worth

This is a letter to women everywhere who feel and act as though they aren't worth more than gold and rubies. You are priceless.

Dear Friend,

       Hi. How are you? I'm good. I'm writing to you because I hear you are down and out. I really hate to see a woman hate herself. Society has brain washed you into thinking you aren't a beautiful woman unless you are a size 2, shaking your ass in a music video, and/or having a sex tape out for the world to see. Look, not every woman has the body frame to be a size 2. Even Marylin Monroe, one of the biggest sex symbols in the world, wore a size 16. Real women have curves. You don't have to sell your soul just to get 15 minutes of fame. I don't think your parents raised you to be known as the woman who shakes her ass in a video, while men disrespect you and call you out your name. You should have more respect for yourself by learning how to make your money without taking off your clothes and shaking your ass. Your soul should not be for sell. You are a child of God, so act like it! Sex is an act you perform with someone you love. You shouldn't leak a sex video, so you can get a career. All you will be known as, is the woman who an suck and fuck very well. Really?!? It's not cute. God intended us to do our best with our mental abilities and not use our physical to get whatever we want.

       I also want to talk to you about the way you let men abuse you. You may have been raised in a single parent household without your father. You may not have known your father at all or your father may not have cared for you even though he is still living. Life is never fair. When you get in a relationship, you act as though since your father was missing all your life, now you have to find some father figure. Not only are you fooling yourself, but you are also fooling your partner into thinking you will have a healthy relationship. God always gives us substitutes in places we are lacking. If you need a father figure, there may have been a brother, cousin, or an uncle in your life who was a notable and loving man. You may have not realized it. Also, life is not about getting knocked up during high school or because you feel there is no other way to get out of your circumstances or to keep a man. If you are in high school , sex shouldn't be your priority, studying should be. You should have a plan to either go to college or learn a trade once you graduate. You need to learn how to take care of yourself first before you start to take care of a family. If you feel as though there is no way to get out of your circumstances, then you are hanging around the wrong people. Get around people you see are making a difference in their lives and others. There is no rule to say you need to have a man. If you feel you have to have a baby to keep a man, then that man is not for you. Not everyone is for you but you can learn from everyone. If you notice your man having baby after baby with many different women and you think he is going to stay with you because he places his head at your house, you are insane. This man has no respect for you and doesn't even care about himself so, how would he care for you? Lastly, always make sure you wrap it up when you have sex. If men don't care about themselves, they wouldn't care if they pass on a sexual transmitted disease to you.

So, I hope you take heed of all the issues I have talked about. You should be your main priority. Your life is precious and don't take it for granted. You're worth is priceless. Learn how to love yourself and God will take care of the rest.

Who Does This?

So, the other day I was having a conversation with a friend and I found out some crazy ass information. Now, what I'm going to tell you actually happened. Its not a joke or a hoax. Now, being single has it's perks where you can make any decisions you want and not have to answer to anyone. Well, there is a female who took popping off with someone to the extreme. So, she wanted to get some with a guy she just met, but didn't have or get a babysitter. This female took her few month old baby with her and had the baby in the room while she popped it off with this guy she met.


Ok. I'm baffled at this situation. First off, you never take your child with you when you going to get some, especially a baby. Secondly, that's child endangerment because you are taking your child to a random person's house and putting that child in an uncompromising situation. My thing is this: if she wanted to pop it off with a person so badly, she should have found a babysitter or just not get some that day. Maybe it wasn't meant for her to get some from that particular guy. I think she should have thought twice before making this decision.

Sex is not a game out here. Now a day, you can die from not making the right decisions about sex. Young women, if you have a child, please don't take your child with you during a popping off session. You should have more respect for yourself and your child.


What would you do? What are your thoughts on this topic? Please let me know.

Living Life

So, I have been on hiatus for a few months now and I have learned so much in this time. The first thing I learned was love can come when you aren't expecting it. In July, I was in a close friend's wedding and I loved being there to support her. I also loved seeing the tremendous love her family, her fiancee', and her finacee's family had for her. I was so excited to see her getting married because she had been through much and I just loved to see her happy. In the back of my head I was thinking, I want to have someone that loves me tremendously.

In August, I made one of the biggest and best decisions of my life. I decided to have heart surgery again because there was blue blood being blocked. I was so tired of having to stay in the bed half the day because I have a bad sinus or migraine headache. I was so tired of always having to catch my breath. I just wanted to be breathe normally and not get tired easily. I couldn't take anymore of the black outs because I have physically hurt myself because of them. So, on August 8, 2011 I had my 5th and last heart surgery. This time, they didn't have to open my chest up and I was able to recover faster. I'm now breathing at 95-100%. This was the first time I made the decision by myself, usually it would be my parents. What sacrifices they have made for me. I appreciate all their opinions and now I'm on the road of being able to take care of myself.

September, I found out who my true friends were. August was the month I found love and September was the test of it. I found myself in love with one of a girl friend's (at the time) ex. He and I were friends before, but we became the best of friends when I found out he had moved to North Carolina. I love the relationship we have because he is actually in love with me and not the concept of me. At first my  girl friend was cool with it, until some people questioned her about it. First off, the so called friend and my cutie were ex's for a while. Secondly, I talked to her woman to woman about the whole situation. Thirdly, if she was my true friend, she wouldn't have gone behind my back and lied to look like a victim so people can feel sorry for her. I was truly hurt because we were friends for so long and she treated me like I was garbage.

All through the loving, recovery, and hurt I learned I have become a better and stronger person. I have so much confidence in myself, where before I had very low self-esteem. I learned to just take one day at a time. If you are going to worry, don't pray. Even though I no longer have a certain friendship, my life still goes on and I'm loving every moment of it!

Is Chivalry Dead?

A few weeks ago I went on a date and I thought it was ok. Let me tell you what happened. So, on a Saturday night I hung out with this guy at the movies and he ended up paying for my ticket, which was nice. After the movies, we just sat and talked, just having fun. On Sunday, we went to brunch, but it was a little weird.

First off, I'm small and he had an suv. Instead of helping me into the suv, he watched me slide out of the suv. Laughed and said, "You have to be careful." Really? Then he drove all the way to the restaurant without his wallet. He said, "I can't find my wallet." Come on! I just paid for the meal because not only did he not have his wallet, but I wanted him to know I can take of myself.

To me, I think chivalry is dead. I don't see any men opening doors for women. Just because we say that we are independent, doesn't mean you treat us as though we don't need any help. I also see how men talk to me women. For example, a guy sees a woman/girl and says, "Hey shawty. Come here!" WTF?!? Are we your pets? Don't call me over like I'm your dog and don't look at me like I'm the last piece of meat on earth that you want to devour. Show some class.

In my mother's day, the men courted the women. They took time to talk to the woman, spit their game, and took care of their women. Now a day, some men can't wait to jump in bed with you. If you don't sleep with some men on their time, they automatically stop being nice to you and call you a bitch.

Now, I know there are a hand full who are men of chilvary. But where are they? They are either taken or gay. Maybe I'm wrong or maybe I'm not. Tell what do you think.