Diary of a Tired Black Man

This weekend, since I have netflix, I saw this documentary called Diary of a Mad Black Man. It stars the fine ass Jimmy Jean-Louis. This is the black man's Waiting to Exhale. I found it very interesting. The whole point of the documentary was to show everyday people different scenes, from the view point of a black educated man, of how some black men are treated in reationships and get their reactions. When I saw the scenes for myself, I see why some of these men are angry and they date outside of their race.

Here are a few of the scenes I can remember from the movie:
Scene#1: This educated man is married to a black woman who doesn't work, but takese care of the child and home. She gets up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and sees his underwear on the floor. She gets mad and wakes him up to have an argument about how he needs to learn how to put his underwear in the hamper.

• Is she crazy?


• Doesn't he have to wake up in a few hours to go to work?


• Why have an unnecessary argument just for the sake of arguing?

What would you have done in this situation?

Scene #2: The wife has her friends over for some girl time. The whole time she is bashing her husband because she feels he isn't man enough for her. She is over exaggerating the things he so called does because she has a leash on him. Then she goes on and tells her friends that if they don't have their men in check, they are going to lose them. Its like him against her.

• In the marriage, isn't it supposed to be a team?


• What is the point of bashing your husband in front of your friends?


• Why give your friends the wrong information about marriage?

What would you do in this situation?

Scene #3: So, the arguing for no apparent reason and the degrading caused the black married couple to divorce. So, he comes over with a white woman to come and pick up his child. The ex-wife and her friends meet him at the door to cuss him out and tell him he is a 'no good nigga.' So, he proceeds to tell them that he was a good husband but his wife was so selfish that she didn't realize it. She still lives in the house that he bought and he still pays the morgage and child support. He also cares so much about his child that he comes and picks her up.

Now, what would you have done in this situation?

I was shown how some men feel when they are treated wrongly by a woman. I'm glad that this is out in the open. If you get a chance. you should rent this movie. Please let me know your thoughts. I would love to know. Thanks!

Some Married Men

Now, I have never been married, but in the past weeks I have been getting invites from married men to sleep with them. WTF? Do they think I'm that desperate to have someone? I don't think so! My thing is, why marry if you know that you just want to live the single life? Its not wrong to not get married.

What is this thing that if a married man has a chick on the side, then he is a pimp? Some men think that he's the man if he does. One of my guy friends said that it was an innate thing in a man to cheat. Ummmm.......no! What is wrong with our society? It's not an innate thing for a man to cheat. I know many men who take their vows very seriously. So, what does society have to say about that one?

Even one of my girlfriends said that a man is going to cheat no matter what in a relationship. We (women) need to just accept it. Ummm.....hell no! Now, I know why there is a show called Snapped. I don't blame some women from snapping, but killing is not the best option. Getting a man back means that you aren't over the initial hurt. Just leave him alone because your freedom should be worth more than to get a man back who doesn't care nothing about you. He moved on to the next, and so should you.

So, I think I might just stay single for a little while longer. I wish some men would just be honest and keep their vows. What do you think?