Is Chivalry Dead?

A few weeks ago I went on a date and I thought it was ok. Let me tell you what happened. So, on a Saturday night I hung out with this guy at the movies and he ended up paying for my ticket, which was nice. After the movies, we just sat and talked, just having fun. On Sunday, we went to brunch, but it was a little weird.

First off, I'm small and he had an suv. Instead of helping me into the suv, he watched me slide out of the suv. Laughed and said, "You have to be careful." Really? Then he drove all the way to the restaurant without his wallet. He said, "I can't find my wallet." Come on! I just paid for the meal because not only did he not have his wallet, but I wanted him to know I can take of myself.

To me, I think chivalry is dead. I don't see any men opening doors for women. Just because we say that we are independent, doesn't mean you treat us as though we don't need any help. I also see how men talk to me women. For example, a guy sees a woman/girl and says, "Hey shawty. Come here!" WTF?!? Are we your pets? Don't call me over like I'm your dog and don't look at me like I'm the last piece of meat on earth that you want to devour. Show some class.

In my mother's day, the men courted the women. They took time to talk to the woman, spit their game, and took care of their women. Now a day, some men can't wait to jump in bed with you. If you don't sleep with some men on their time, they automatically stop being nice to you and call you a bitch.

Now, I know there are a hand full who are men of chilvary. But where are they? They are either taken or gay. Maybe I'm wrong or maybe I'm not. Tell what do you think.

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

This past Mother's Day weekend, I had the pleasure to be in a play called "Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places." It was written, choreographed, and produced by Melissa Huggins, who is a native of New Jersey. Melissa and her crew, Tracy White & Dawn Johnson, all moved to Charlotte a year ago for a change of scenery. Mrs. Huggins is the founder of Body Language Productions in 1982, which is a Christian based.

I have been in many performances before, but I have really enjoyed working with this group of performers. We all have seem to left our egos at the door. We seem to listen to one another. No one has ever tried to be a Chief when they were an Indian. We gave each other constructive criticism and therefore we grew as performers. We encouraged each other when someone was lacking.

The play went well. It was performed at the Boothe Theatre inside the Blumental in Charlotte, NC May 6 and May 7 at 8pm. Every night I came home smiling because I knew I was working, but having fun. Everyone stepped up their game. I now have a theatre family, just like my dancing family. A few years ago, I had a horrible experince with a theatre cast, and now I have come out of my shell. Thank-you everyone. I can't wait to see everyone two weeks from now at the cast party. Love ya'll. =)

Did God Program Men to Cheat?

A few weeks ago, I had a conversation with one of my guy friends. He said even though he has a girlfriend and a beautiful baby, he has this inkling to want to sleep with more women. He said God made him want to cheat and that maybe we aren't supposed to be with one person our whole lives. My first response was, "Wow! I didn't know God would make anyone want to cheat on their significant other?" But this is what I told him:

"God did not make us to be pimps or whores. He did not make us to want to indulge with many sexual partners. It is us, who do not have self-control. We are so into, we have to have the best of everything, even have the baddest and best men/women on our arms. Sex is not meant to be game of who can get the most points and the most number of people."

I'm so tired of people making excuses for why they cheat. It is not right to cheat. If you do not want to be in the relationship anymore, just say it. I'm sure your mate will be hurt a little by you telling the truth, but will be devastated if you stay and make the cheating your mate's fault. People just need to take more responsibility for their actions.

By the end of our conversation, my guy friend realized he was to blame for wanting to sleep with more women. I'm not sure if he cheated or not, but I hope he didn't. I think everyone has their own flaws and we have our own temptations. We have God to help us not to indulge in our temptations. God did not program us to cheat! God programed us to be monogamous people.

Do you think God program men (man and woman) to cheat? Let me know your opinion. Thanks!

African-Americans vs. Ourselves

The other day I was watching this video on high school kids talking horribly about one another. Its the age old duel of dark skinned people vs. light skinned people. WTF? Its 2011 and we still are hating on each other. African-Americans are the only race who hate on each other no apparent reasons. We seem not to want to help each other because of fear the other person will get higher up on the chain of life.

We have taken what the slave master has done and said to divide us and we have kept the division. During slavery, the slave masters would breed us like animals because we were seen as property and even treated worse than animals. Slave masters would rape us and once the mixed children arrived, they would divide us by color so we wouldn't communicate with each other. They called us black back then, meaning evil, so that we can feel and think we are inferior to them.

During the Civil Rights Era, we really learned how to stick together as a race. We trusted one another and if a person was lacking, we would make sure there was help around the corner. Now, we just act as though the civil rights era didn't exist. Some of us walk around as though we don't have any home training. We cuss, argue, and murder each other at a drop of a dime. Though every race gets their language, style, music, everyday living items, etc...from us, they are laughing at us.

We need to change our way of thinking. Here are some ways:

(1) Children do not see color, they are taught to see it.---We need to show our children that every race and color needs to be accepted. No one color or race is greater.

(2) We, African-Americans, need to learn how to love one another.---We are not each other's enemy. We have to learn how to stick together. For example, I never see a Jewish-American hate on another Jewish-American. They would actually help the other get a job or help the other out spiritually and emotionally.

(3) We also need to learn how to respect one another.---When I was growing up, you couldn't talk back with out getting the tate slapped out of your mouth. We need to teach these kids who are having babies how to raise their children. Don't think that once your teenager birth's a child you are done raising your child. Don't let them fend on their own.

(4) We need to get our focus back on God and not on who has the most money. We need to learn how to love ourselves.

So, in ending, God didn't make us to hate one another and/or ourselves. Be grateful for your life and don't take it for granted.

P.S.- If you want to see the video here it goes: http://youtu.be/ev5v59k0uMc