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Monday, January 24, 2011

Diary of a Tired Black Man

This weekend, since I have netflix, I saw this documentary called Diary of a Mad Black Man. It stars the fine ass Jimmy Jean-Louis. This is the black man's Waiting to Exhale. I found it very interesting. The whole point of the documentary was to show everyday people different scenes, from the view point of a black educated man, of how some black men are treated in reationships and get their reactions. When I saw the scenes for myself, I see why some of these men are angry and they date outside of their race.

Here are a few of the scenes I can remember from the movie:
Scene#1: This educated man is married to a black woman who doesn't work, but takese care of the child and home. She gets up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and sees his underwear on the floor. She gets mad and wakes him up to have an argument about how he needs to learn how to put his underwear in the hamper.



  • Is she crazy?

  • Doesn't he have to wake up in a few hours to go to work?

  • Why have an unnecessary argument just for the sake of arguing?

What would you have done in this situation?




Scene #2: The wife has her friends over for some girl time. The whole time she is bashing her husband because she feels he isn't man enough for her. She is over exaggerating the things he so called does because she has a leash on him. Then she goes on and tells her friends that if they don't have their men in check, they are going to lose them. Its like him against her.



  • In the marriage, isn't it supposed to be a team?

  • What is the point of bashing your husband in front of your friends?

  • Why give your friends the wrong information about marriage?

What would you do in this situation?



Scene #3: So, the arguing for no apparent reason and the degrading caused the black married couple to divorce. So, he comes over with a white woman to come and pick up his child. The ex-wife and her friends meet him at the door to cuss him out and tell him he is a 'no good nigga.' So, he proceeds to tell them that he was a good husband but his wife was so selfish that she didn't realize it. She still lives in the house that he bought and he still pays the morgage and child support. He also cares so much about his child that he comes and picks her up.


Now, what would you have done in this situation?



I was shown how some men feel when they are treated wrongly by a woman. I'm glad that this is out in the open. If you get a chance. you should rent this movie. Please let me know your thoughts. I would love to know. Thanks!

3 comments:

  1. I am sick and tired of people lumping women into a single category. I am tired of carrying the brunt of the poor actions of others. This issue has plagued our people for generations; whether the judging comes from the masses or from our own brothers and sisters. Being Black in America comes with its own baggage, and it is hard to give it away.
    It is unacceptable for anyone to discriminate a certain group of people because of a bad experience they encountered. If your friend commits a crime, does that make you a criminal? No, it does not. So, why would a intelligent woman have to be considered ignorant or violent because the woman next door emasculates her husband?
    A woman's worth should be judged on her character and virtue. Men who say they don’t date black women because they are crazy, uneducated, loud, and any other feminist vernacular could lose an opportunity with a good woman. Maybe men should stop dating little girls and start dating women. A real woman will love, nurture, and stand by her man. A real woman will not degrade, put down, or abuse her man.
    Love is not defined by skin color or creed. Fall in love with whomever you decide, but do not degrade black women in the process. We look for our men to uplift us, instead slashing our dignity as the masses have for generations.

    I understand why a black man can be mad, but who isn’t when you are in a sour relationship. We, as a people, need to start loving each other. Until then, we will never be happy and fulfilled individuals.

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  2. Wasn't this one called 'Diary of a Tired Black Man'? This sounds a lot like the one by Tim Alexander. If this is not the same film, tell me where to pick a copy of this one up.

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  3. This movie was a good example of what some women do. I believe that this is a wake up call to the women out here who are striving to be that good woman, to make sure their game is tight. It does not take much to make a particular group of people look bad. So if you are a member of a particular group of people, like women. There are some women that are not the best representatives of our group, however you can't control that. You can only present yourself as a good representative. This movie I believe is an eye opener and more women need to see it.

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