Is Being Drunk An Excuse?

When I was in college, I used to be in the club from Wednesday-Sunday every week. I used to drink all the time, but now I have become a social drinker. The reason why I have become a social drinker is because going to the club eventually got old and also I was around people who would drink so much, there would be no one to drive home. I rather be the designated driver who is sober and alert.

I have also made a decision to not be around people who drink excessively. Some people are like a Dr. Jekyl and Ms. Hyde. They feel like once they get some liquor in them, its time for them to act like an ass. People will come out of their mouth and say the things they have been really feeling about you. Then the next morning when you are feeling sour and angry, they will act like they don't remember or they will act like the drinking was an excuse and they really didn't mean it. Ummmm.....yea right! You know they aren't really your friends if they can't tell you the truth about how they feel when they are sober. They are just cowards.

Another thing people make an excuse for drinking is sleeping with other people, either its an ugly person or cheating on their boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. You know how a person will roll over and scream, "Damn. Hell No! Is that the same person I came home with?" So, now the non-attractive person starts stalking you because you're not replying to their phone calls and text message. What are you going to say? "Blame....Blame....Blame it on the liquor?" Now, that's just dumb.

What about your relationship? You're going to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend or wife/husband that it was a dumb move and the person didn't mean anything to you. Or what if the other person ends up pregnant, then you are really in a jam. A one night stand could bring you a lot of pain and regrets when alcohol comes in the picture.

So, in reality drinking is not an excuse to act like an ass. Let me know what you think.

Does Size Matter?

One of my guy friends, who reads this blog, told me I need to write a topic that will spice things up. So, this one is for you babe. On Saturday night, a few of my friends and I went clubbing. My friend's cousin asked, "Most women do not like big men because they think a big man would have a small penis. Is this true?"

Well, to me, I'm very different, but the size doesn't matter. It's more of the man's motion. The reason why I say this is because some men that have big penises don't know what to do with it. They are totally clueless. Then sometimes when a man that has a big penis knows what he is doing, but treats you like shit. I mean, who wants that? I have also found out that smaller men pack more than average size men. Its kind of like they make up for the lack of height.

Some men also act like idiots and make some women not want to have sex all together. Just because a man has a big penis might mean he may not have a mind. Some men feel like they are God's gift to women when they know can work the middle and do it all too well. Who wants to sleep with a man who gives great sex, but can't hold a conversation? Who wants to sleep with a man who sleeps with everyone and their momma? Ummmm...that's disgusting, but not me!

So, does size really matter? I would love to know.

Two Sides To Every Story

One of my pet peeves is when people meet you for the first time and they say they don't like you because what their friend said about you. WTF? Does anyone have a mind these days or do we just go with the flow so we can feel accepted? We should try to get to know a person because we want to and not because we hear a one sided story.

Many people I have met for the first time haven't wanted to get to know me because of what their friend say about me. I have a friend that is a mutual friend of one of my ex-boyfriends. The guy and I started to become good friends until my ex-boyfriend decided to get jealous of the friendship. So, in order for my ex-boyfriend to the friend not talk to me, he decides to tell the friend what he felt I did wrong in the relationship to make it go sour. What an idiot!

First off, I really do not like my business to be out there. Secondly, I'm not the only one that did something wrong. It takes two people to make up a relationship. Thirdly, I appreciate how he decided to tell the friend all the negatives I did in the relationship.

Now, the friend doesn't really talk to me anymore. When we do talk, its very short with one worded answers to questions. Sometimes I feel like yelling, "I'm not such a bad person. You should know my side of the story." I feel at times, I never get a chance to defend myself. My ex is no angel. I just feel a little sad for losing a friend over dumb stuff, but in reality that friend was never real. A real friend will be friends with you no matter what anyone says.

Thanks for letting be rant and vent. Lata

Hollywood Too Thin?

I'm so annoyed that Hollywood tells women the only way to be successful in the world you have to be a white woman with blonde hair, big boobs, straight teeth, and be the size of a tooth pick. I'm so far from that. I'm an African-American woman who stands at 5'1"and 130 pounds. I wouldn't be able to be a model because I'm too short and if I were to be a model, I would be a plus size model. I don't have a problem with the plus size, I have a problem about Hollywood having problems about being healthy. In reality, no one really looks that way.

I'm also annoyed how some men feel that if a woman do not look like the women on tv or in the movies, they will not talk to you. Are they that superficial? Some men feel they can look any old way, like they don't think a woman wouldn't want them to look good at all. Why can't a guy like you for you and not for someone whose looks will eventually fade away.

I love the way Gaboury Sidibe sees herself. She says, ""They [the press] try to paint the picture that I was this downtrodden, ugly girl who was unpopular in school and in life and then I got this role and now I'm awesome, but the truth is that I've been awesome, and then I got this role." So, Jessica Simpson said this about Sidibe,"She walked the red carpet at the Oscars and she owned it. She had such confidence and I absolutely 100 percent think she could get anything in the world she wants." If only every woman in the world had the confidence of Sidibe.

So, as women try every diet to look good for society, try to think about looking good for yourself. Show yourself how great you are and will be when you focus your mind. Hollywood needs to tell the world the truth and this way many women will not die trying to look like the women on tv or in the movies.

Look at this. Sidibe is at the end:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LpeMZA3LDBE (repost this)

Celebrities and Their Images

I have loved music since the day my mom played Michael Jackson and I said, "Again!" at the age of 2. I love all genres of music. Now, there are many female rappers that are great at their crafts and there are some that need help. The newest female rapper is Nikki Minaj. I like her rapping style, but I really don't like her stage persona. I was watching the Mo'nique show, where Nikki was on, and Nikki said, "I'm the Monica Lewinski to Wayne." Ummmm......did she really say that? Yes. I know Mo'nique's show is on late night, but anybody can google Nikki or just go on YouTube and find this interview. I also know she was being real about the situation, but it was a little to real for me. She has young women looking up to her and she is basically telling them, you have to suck to get to where you want to be. Wow! What do you think?

I'm also a big movie buff. I have enjoyed watching movies since my late Uncle Johnny introduced me to them at the age of 8. I want to Congratulate Mo'nqiue on winning the Oscar for Best Supporting Actress. Now, I know she is a great actress, but many people have been talking about her open marriage. Now when I first heard about an open marriage, I didn't fully understand what it means. An open marriage is when one or both people in the marriage can step out and sleep with other people.

Well, I have been taught that marriage was a union between two people. Am I wrong? Or have we let people do anything they want out fear of being alone or desperation to keep them? Maybe I'm just out of the loop or I'm too harsh of a judge. Or maybe I'm just stuck in olden times. I'm not bashing people, I'm just trying to get you to think. Let me know!

Kindness

So, I was trying to figure out what to write and my mom gave me this topic, kindness. Thanks. The dictionary says that kindness is a nice deed and its synonym is affection. But do we show kindness to one another or do we simple don't care? To me, the generation of kids growing up these days don't know anything about kindness. They talk back to their parents, they bully their peers, they throw tantrums, and they just don't give a damn. I'm so glad I didn't become a teacher. I would be fired on the first day and the principal would say, "Ms. Carter, you can't hit these children!"

We as adults don't show each other kindness, either. We are always look out for number one. We get mad at people, who work hard to get to where they are, when they make more money than us. We also don't want to help one another out because we feel that person is going to take our job or spot.

What I really like about our President is that he and other authorities from other countries came together to help the Haitian people. Our President was willing to show is kindness by helping the Haitians rebuild and start a new chapter in their lives. He wasn't going to be like our other president, who let people sit out in the hot sun on top of houses day in and day out with no food or water. Our president is a prime example of showing us that kindness goes along way.

Since the earthquakes in Haiti, Chile, and Taiwan God or your higher power is trying to tell us something. He is telling us that we need one another. So, let's go out and show our kindness to one aonther. Try giving kindness to someone you don't know. It will not make you feel better about yourself, but it will also make someone smile and/or make someone's day.

Sex Slaves

Last night I was watching MSNBC there were two shows of sex slaves. One was about women being shipped to America and the other was about children being turned into sex slaves. What has this world come to? These shows made me cry and I can't believe this happens right here under our noses.

The show were the women were being shipped here, the women came replying to job ads. The women were thinking they were making a better life for their families. Most of these women were single mothers and college students. One of the single mothers was given beer the moment she arrived here and she doesn't even drink. Her new job was to drink and as many drinks she drinks, men can touch any part of her body. WTF? Then the number of drinks a man buys the woman, that's as long as he has sex with her. Are they for real? Many of these women were raped and murdered for trying to get help. Some were just raped everyday as a threat and hold over their lives. OMG!

The other show with the children was just horrible. These two cousins, who were 14 and 15, were taken while they were walking to a gas station by a pimp and his two women. In less than 24 hours, these two cousins were taken across state lines so they could start their new jobs servicing truck drivers at truck stops. The cousins parents were looking for them. Once they found the house the young girls were held hostage in, the parents called the police. The thing that I didn't get was how long the police took to rescue the girls. It took 6 calls from 6 different people for the police to arrive. Two hours and a beat down later, where one father is now disabled, the police arrived.

What is wrong with people? To me, it seems as though the police aren't doing their jobs. Are we supposed to feel safe now? I don't. I see why ordinary people go and bear arms. I just wanted to inform you what was going on while you are sleeping in your nice comfy beds. Pray for these women and children. I know I will be!