Know Your Worth

This is a letter to women everywhere who feel and act as though they aren't worth more than gold and rubies. You are priceless.

Dear Friend,

       Hi. How are you? I'm good. I'm writing to you because I hear you are down and out. I really hate to see a woman hate herself. Society has brain washed you into thinking you aren't a beautiful woman unless you are a size 2, shaking your ass in a music video, and/or having a sex tape out for the world to see. Look, not every woman has the body frame to be a size 2. Even Marylin Monroe, one of the biggest sex symbols in the world, wore a size 16. Real women have curves. You don't have to sell your soul just to get 15 minutes of fame. I don't think your parents raised you to be known as the woman who shakes her ass in a video, while men disrespect you and call you out your name. You should have more respect for yourself by learning how to make your money without taking off your clothes and shaking your ass. Your soul should not be for sell. You are a child of God, so act like it! Sex is an act you perform with someone you love. You shouldn't leak a sex video, so you can get a career. All you will be known as, is the woman who an suck and fuck very well. Really?!? It's not cute. God intended us to do our best with our mental abilities and not use our physical to get whatever we want.

       I also want to talk to you about the way you let men abuse you. You may have been raised in a single parent household without your father. You may not have known your father at all or your father may not have cared for you even though he is still living. Life is never fair. When you get in a relationship, you act as though since your father was missing all your life, now you have to find some father figure. Not only are you fooling yourself, but you are also fooling your partner into thinking you will have a healthy relationship. God always gives us substitutes in places we are lacking. If you need a father figure, there may have been a brother, cousin, or an uncle in your life who was a notable and loving man. You may have not realized it. Also, life is not about getting knocked up during high school or because you feel there is no other way to get out of your circumstances or to keep a man. If you are in high school , sex shouldn't be your priority, studying should be. You should have a plan to either go to college or learn a trade once you graduate. You need to learn how to take care of yourself first before you start to take care of a family. If you feel as though there is no way to get out of your circumstances, then you are hanging around the wrong people. Get around people you see are making a difference in their lives and others. There is no rule to say you need to have a man. If you feel you have to have a baby to keep a man, then that man is not for you. Not everyone is for you but you can learn from everyone. If you notice your man having baby after baby with many different women and you think he is going to stay with you because he places his head at your house, you are insane. This man has no respect for you and doesn't even care about himself so, how would he care for you? Lastly, always make sure you wrap it up when you have sex. If men don't care about themselves, they wouldn't care if they pass on a sexual transmitted disease to you.

So, I hope you take heed of all the issues I have talked about. You should be your main priority. Your life is precious and don't take it for granted. You're worth is priceless. Learn how to love yourself and God will take care of the rest.

Who Does This?

So, the other day I was having a conversation with a friend and I found out some crazy ass information. Now, what I'm going to tell you actually happened. Its not a joke or a hoax. Now, being single has it's perks where you can make any decisions you want and not have to answer to anyone. Well, there is a female who took popping off with someone to the extreme. So, she wanted to get some with a guy she just met, but didn't have or get a babysitter. This female took her few month old baby with her and had the baby in the room while she popped it off with this guy she met.


Ok. I'm baffled at this situation. First off, you never take your child with you when you going to get some, especially a baby. Secondly, that's child endangerment because you are taking your child to a random person's house and putting that child in an uncompromising situation. My thing is this: if she wanted to pop it off with a person so badly, she should have found a babysitter or just not get some that day. Maybe it wasn't meant for her to get some from that particular guy. I think she should have thought twice before making this decision.

Sex is not a game out here. Now a day, you can die from not making the right decisions about sex. Young women, if you have a child, please don't take your child with you during a popping off session. You should have more respect for yourself and your child.


What would you do? What are your thoughts on this topic? Please let me know.

Living Life

So, I have been on hiatus for a few months now and I have learned so much in this time. The first thing I learned was love can come when you aren't expecting it. In July, I was in a close friend's wedding and I loved being there to support her. I also loved seeing the tremendous love her family, her fiancee', and her finacee's family had for her. I was so excited to see her getting married because she had been through much and I just loved to see her happy. In the back of my head I was thinking, I want to have someone that loves me tremendously.

In August, I made one of the biggest and best decisions of my life. I decided to have heart surgery again because there was blue blood being blocked. I was so tired of having to stay in the bed half the day because I have a bad sinus or migraine headache. I was so tired of always having to catch my breath. I just wanted to be breathe normally and not get tired easily. I couldn't take anymore of the black outs because I have physically hurt myself because of them. So, on August 8, 2011 I had my 5th and last heart surgery. This time, they didn't have to open my chest up and I was able to recover faster. I'm now breathing at 95-100%. This was the first time I made the decision by myself, usually it would be my parents. What sacrifices they have made for me. I appreciate all their opinions and now I'm on the road of being able to take care of myself.

September, I found out who my true friends were. August was the month I found love and September was the test of it. I found myself in love with one of a girl friend's (at the time) ex. He and I were friends before, but we became the best of friends when I found out he had moved to North Carolina. I love the relationship we have because he is actually in love with me and not the concept of me. At first my  girl friend was cool with it, until some people questioned her about it. First off, the so called friend and my cutie were ex's for a while. Secondly, I talked to her woman to woman about the whole situation. Thirdly, if she was my true friend, she wouldn't have gone behind my back and lied to look like a victim so people can feel sorry for her. I was truly hurt because we were friends for so long and she treated me like I was garbage.

All through the loving, recovery, and hurt I learned I have become a better and stronger person. I have so much confidence in myself, where before I had very low self-esteem. I learned to just take one day at a time. If you are going to worry, don't pray. Even though I no longer have a certain friendship, my life still goes on and I'm loving every moment of it!

Is Chivalry Dead?

A few weeks ago I went on a date and I thought it was ok. Let me tell you what happened. So, on a Saturday night I hung out with this guy at the movies and he ended up paying for my ticket, which was nice. After the movies, we just sat and talked, just having fun. On Sunday, we went to brunch, but it was a little weird.

First off, I'm small and he had an suv. Instead of helping me into the suv, he watched me slide out of the suv. Laughed and said, "You have to be careful." Really? Then he drove all the way to the restaurant without his wallet. He said, "I can't find my wallet." Come on! I just paid for the meal because not only did he not have his wallet, but I wanted him to know I can take of myself.

To me, I think chivalry is dead. I don't see any men opening doors for women. Just because we say that we are independent, doesn't mean you treat us as though we don't need any help. I also see how men talk to me women. For example, a guy sees a woman/girl and says, "Hey shawty. Come here!" WTF?!? Are we your pets? Don't call me over like I'm your dog and don't look at me like I'm the last piece of meat on earth that you want to devour. Show some class.

In my mother's day, the men courted the women. They took time to talk to the woman, spit their game, and took care of their women. Now a day, some men can't wait to jump in bed with you. If you don't sleep with some men on their time, they automatically stop being nice to you and call you a bitch.

Now, I know there are a hand full who are men of chilvary. But where are they? They are either taken or gay. Maybe I'm wrong or maybe I'm not. Tell what do you think.

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

This past Mother's Day weekend, I had the pleasure to be in a play called "Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places." It was written, choreographed, and produced by Melissa Huggins, who is a native of New Jersey. Melissa and her crew, Tracy White & Dawn Johnson, all moved to Charlotte a year ago for a change of scenery. Mrs. Huggins is the founder of Body Language Productions in 1982, which is a Christian based.

I have been in many performances before, but I have really enjoyed working with this group of performers. We all have seem to left our egos at the door. We seem to listen to one another. No one has ever tried to be a Chief when they were an Indian. We gave each other constructive criticism and therefore we grew as performers. We encouraged each other when someone was lacking.

The play went well. It was performed at the Boothe Theatre inside the Blumental in Charlotte, NC May 6 and May 7 at 8pm. Every night I came home smiling because I knew I was working, but having fun. Everyone stepped up their game. I now have a theatre family, just like my dancing family. A few years ago, I had a horrible experince with a theatre cast, and now I have come out of my shell. Thank-you everyone. I can't wait to see everyone two weeks from now at the cast party. Love ya'll. =)

Did God Program Men to Cheat?

A few weeks ago, I had a conversation with one of my guy friends. He said even though he has a girlfriend and a beautiful baby, he has this inkling to want to sleep with more women. He said God made him want to cheat and that maybe we aren't supposed to be with one person our whole lives. My first response was, "Wow! I didn't know God would make anyone want to cheat on their significant other?" But this is what I told him:

"God did not make us to be pimps or whores. He did not make us to want to indulge with many sexual partners. It is us, who do not have self-control. We are so into, we have to have the best of everything, even have the baddest and best men/women on our arms. Sex is not meant to be game of who can get the most points and the most number of people."

I'm so tired of people making excuses for why they cheat. It is not right to cheat. If you do not want to be in the relationship anymore, just say it. I'm sure your mate will be hurt a little by you telling the truth, but will be devastated if you stay and make the cheating your mate's fault. People just need to take more responsibility for their actions.

By the end of our conversation, my guy friend realized he was to blame for wanting to sleep with more women. I'm not sure if he cheated or not, but I hope he didn't. I think everyone has their own flaws and we have our own temptations. We have God to help us not to indulge in our temptations. God did not program us to cheat! God programed us to be monogamous people.

Do you think God program men (man and woman) to cheat? Let me know your opinion. Thanks!

African-Americans vs. Ourselves

The other day I was watching this video on high school kids talking horribly about one another. Its the age old duel of dark skinned people vs. light skinned people. WTF? Its 2011 and we still are hating on each other. African-Americans are the only race who hate on each other no apparent reasons. We seem not to want to help each other because of fear the other person will get higher up on the chain of life.

We have taken what the slave master has done and said to divide us and we have kept the division. During slavery, the slave masters would breed us like animals because we were seen as property and even treated worse than animals. Slave masters would rape us and once the mixed children arrived, they would divide us by color so we wouldn't communicate with each other. They called us black back then, meaning evil, so that we can feel and think we are inferior to them.

During the Civil Rights Era, we really learned how to stick together as a race. We trusted one another and if a person was lacking, we would make sure there was help around the corner. Now, we just act as though the civil rights era didn't exist. Some of us walk around as though we don't have any home training. We cuss, argue, and murder each other at a drop of a dime. Though every race gets their language, style, music, everyday living items, etc...from us, they are laughing at us.

We need to change our way of thinking. Here are some ways:

(1) Children do not see color, they are taught to see it.---We need to show our children that every race and color needs to be accepted. No one color or race is greater.

(2) We, African-Americans, need to learn how to love one another.---We are not each other's enemy. We have to learn how to stick together. For example, I never see a Jewish-American hate on another Jewish-American. They would actually help the other get a job or help the other out spiritually and emotionally.

(3) We also need to learn how to respect one another.---When I was growing up, you couldn't talk back with out getting the tate slapped out of your mouth. We need to teach these kids who are having babies how to raise their children. Don't think that once your teenager birth's a child you are done raising your child. Don't let them fend on their own.

(4) We need to get our focus back on God and not on who has the most money. We need to learn how to love ourselves.

So, in ending, God didn't make us to hate one another and/or ourselves. Be grateful for your life and don't take it for granted.

P.S.- If you want to see the video here it goes: http://youtu.be/ev5v59k0uMc

Living in Freedom

Living in Freedom

As I was growing up, I was rejected by many people because I had a medical problem. To them, a medical problem means I am weak and I might be contagious. All my life I have been trying to fit in this realm of society. But I have been reading my Bible, Joyce Meyer’s Enjoying Where You are on the Way to Where You are Going, and William Paul Young’s The Shack, and realized that God has freed me to live a life without boundaries. I no longer feel I have to fit in. I am my own person.

Most of my life I have struggled with understanding God and I why I had to go through much physical and emotional pain. As my spiritual bond with God gets stronger, Galatians 5:1 tells me how God sent Jesus to set me free. I need to stand firm and don’t let others burden me again. I don’t need any man to confirm that I’m free to be me because Jesus already has done it. What people say and think of me shouldn’t burden me at all. God made me just the way I’m supposed to be.

We as humans are to live as free men, but we shouldn’t use our freedom as a cover up of our sin. We need to live as servants to God. So in 1 Peter 2:16, God is telling me that I need to be myself and live free, but I shouldn’t use my freedom as a way to do what I want to do. It’s all about God and being in his will. I can’t do anything without a consultation with God. So since God’s Spirit is everywhere then there is freedom everywhere. As in 2 Corinthians 3:17, God is with us, everywhere I go, so I’m free to go and be whoever I choose to be. God and I set my own standards. So, there is nowhere I can ever feel rejected.

We are free, but don’t let our freedom indulge in sin. We are to serve one another. Galatians 5:13 is where God is telling us how we are here to help one another. We need each other more than we think. We are six degrees of being separated from the next person we meet. So, take the time out to help someone and/or just pay it forward.

As we pay it forward God says in him and through our faith we can obtain our freedom with confidence (Ephesians 3:12). So, the next time someone makes you feel uncomfortable or is just rude and says something mean to you, just know God is there with you and you are free to be the person God has rightly made.

President Obama's Birth Certificate

So, Mr. Donald Trump basically got kicked in the ass for making claims that President Obama is not a U.S. citizen because Obama didn't show his birth certificate. If Trump was as smart as he claims, he would have known that every U.S. citizen has a social security number and if the birth certificate is lost the social can pin point where the person was born. Trump should have also known in order for someone to be the President of the U.S., they must be a U.S. born citizen. The government puts the candidates through an extensive background check.

Donald Trump is an idiot and a racist. The ladies on The View were right when they said that Donald Trump can't fathom how a black man can be so smart. Umm....Mr. Trump all of us aren't on welfare, on drugs, and illiterate. Yes, Mr. Obama did get to Harvard on his own because he is intelligent. Mr. Trump just needs to shit down and shut the fuck up! He makes me not proud to be an American.

To me, ever since President Obama has come into office, everything and everyone wants to tarnish his administration. First off, if he didn't have the credentials then he wouldn't be President. Secondly, Please stop blaming President Obama for the economy. President Obama inherited a horrible economy. If it took us 8 years to get us into this economy problem, then I'm sure its going to take another 8 years or more to get us out. Thirdly, President Obama is trying the best he can to get the troops out of war. The person you should put your anger to is former President Bush. He put us in a war for no apparent reason other then someone wanting to kill his father. Its always been a war about oil since the Bushes are in the oil business with the Bin Ladens.

I am proud of my President Obama. I praise him for always taking the high road. President Obama keep doing a great job! What do you think?

The Resurrection

Every year we, for the people who follow Jesus Christ, are giving another chance to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus. The resurrection means something different to each and every one of us. Let me tell you what Jesus' life and resurrection mean to me.

When I was growing up, I was raised in the church. We didn't go to church 24/7 but I was there often enough to have it make an impression on me. Since I was different, have a heart problem, many people bullied me and I started second guessing why God put me on earth. I used to be really angry as to why I couldn't be like a normal person and be able to breathe. With all the physical pain I went through, I used to think maybe God hated me. Maybe I did something to God and he is angry at me. I was so confused and hurt for a long time even though I continued to go to church.

Once I saw the movie The Passion of Christ, I realized just how much more physical pain and ridicule Jesus went through than me. He died so that I will never have to sacrifice an animal every time I sin. I can go to him whenever I want and he will always understand me more than anyone else. He loves me so much that he gave his life for me.

Since he loved me that much, I participated in lent this year. Lent is the Christian tradition: preparation of the believer through prayer, repentance, alms giving, and self-denial. Many Christians give up food or just meat. Since, I can't give up food, I gave up all the thing I most like to do. Now, I have a stronger bond with him and my mind is so clear. I can make the best informed decisions for me.

Last Easter, I spent it burying my grandma and I will never forget it. Four years before that my uncle past around this time, too. I could have ended up hating Easter, but I understand that when it is your time to go, its your time. They are in a better place now, the best place! I have learned to keep living because my life isn't over with, yet. I have also learned that life is precious and you must not take it for granted.

So, this Easter I will be with my family enjoying everyone. I'm looking forward for church, fellowship, and of course the food! Having a relationship with Jesus, makes me want to be a better person. I hope this Easter you enjoy your family and also remember what the resurrection is all about.

Your Health

I have some issues about people's health I want to address. The first thing is about women. A couple of doctors have told some of my friends that its not recommended to have a physical/pap smear once a year. Now, I don't know why these doctors would say that but I have a cousin who is a gynecologist, a grandma who is a retired nurse, and an uncle who is a retired physician. They have always told me that once a woman becomes sexually active, she should get a physical/pap smear once a year. Women, you want to make sure that you don't have an std like (HPV) Human papillomvirus which is very common for both women and men. There are 200 known types of HPV that cause no symptoms in people but can lead to cancer of the cervix, vulva, vagina, and anus in women. You also want to make sure you don't have any other STD and make sure the vagina is still in tact.

I have also heard some women don't chart their cycle, but it reality it helps. It helps you to be in tuned with your body. It also helps you figure out what is going on in your body. For example, if I didn't chart, the doctors wouldn't have found the fibroid and get it fixed. Also, I have noticed stress is a big killer of women. We women need to learn how to relax. We need to learn how to find a hobby that will make us happy and help release all the tension in our bodies.

Now, on to men. Men are a piece of work when it comes to their health. They don't want to go and get a physical because they feel bending over is not masculine. So, they rather keep getting sick just so they can say they are real men. Please, get over yourselves. Bend over to get your prostate a exam once a year or keep letting your medical bills keep you in debt. I would rather be healthy. Men can also catch HPV, too. It can lead to cancer in the anus. Also, men over 45 need to have a colonoscopy every three years. Men 55 and over need have a colonoscopy every year, especially if your family has a history of cancer.

Last thing, I want everyone to know their status when it comes to sex. If you are grown enough to lay down, then you should be grown enough to be responsible for your own health. I'm so tired of hearing how people make excuses as to why they have an STD. It's different if you get it during a bllod infusion. If you aren't married to someone, then use a condom all the time. Birth control pills don't protect you from getting an STD. It just prevents you from getting pregnant.

I hope this blog gets people to be more in tuned and be more responsible for your own health. I want you to have a long healthy life and you should want the same.

Women Preachers

I'm a Christian and I feel at times, some Christians take things too far and try to play God. For instance, when some christians quote scriptures to justify what they do and criticize someone else's sin and they really don't fully comprehend the scripture. I have heard this scripture time and time again about how women shouldn't be preachers. 1 Corinthians 14: 34-35

• Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says.


• If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.

Many people don't know this about me, but I went to an all black christian school from grades 3rd to 8th. All we did was read the bible 24/7, so I know the history of most of the stories in the bible. I really don't get when people try to think they are better than me because they can quote scriptures. Proverbs 26:9- Like a thorn bush in a drunkard's hand is a proverb in the mouth of a fool.

So, back to 1 Corinthians 14:34-35. During the days of the Corinthians, in church the men and women were separated to either side of the room. Men on one side while the women sat on the the other. Also, during those days, the men were more educated to than the women. So, during service the women would talk back and forth to their husbands because they were trying to comprehend what the preacher was talking about, hence "Women should remain silent in church.......If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their husbands at home."

This scripture doesn't in any way say that women can not be preachers. Its just one way for some men to detour a woman from doing anything and/or being anything she chooses. So you mean to tell me that women can give birth, teach our children about manners & life lessons, and help men grow emotionally and spiritually, but we can't preach? You must have bumped your head. How egotistical you are because God never wanted men to view women as second class citizens.

God wanted men and women to be equals. He wants us to equally share the duties of a household, what one person lacks the other fills. So, before you start quoting scriptures to justify what you believe in and why you act the way you do, know the true meaning.

Road Rage!

Every day on my way to work, I get all my aggression out in my car and they call it road rage. Here are a few things some drivers do that really get under my skin:

(1) Pull off without looking when coming out of the gas station.

• Please just look on both ways.


• There have been so many times I had to slam on my brakes to prevent an accident from happening.


• I think there should be a law that all gas stations should have a yield sign when people are pulling out of the station.

(2) Backing up on the highway because you missed your exit.

• Are you for real?


• People are going way too fast for you to back up and plus its very dangerous.


• All you have to do is just drive up to the next exit. Turn around and get back on the highway.

(3) I have a green light and have the right a way, but then you decide to take your right turn on red.

(4) Waiting a week and a day to go when the light is green.

(5) You are driving slow in the fast lane.

(6) You pull in front of me when there is no one behind me. Then you go slow as molasses.

(7) Someone who brakes every five seconds.

• Really?


• Just don't drive if you are that scared.

(8) Back seat drivers.

• Just shut up!

(9) If you are small as me (5'1"or under), then you do not need to drive an expedition or an excursion.
(10) Truckers need to look out for other drivers.

Ms. Encore Couture

I want to congratulate my friend Lakesha Heath for winning Ms. Encore Couture. I'm such a proud friend. She deserves it, too. I met Ke Ke when I was 22 and we have had a great friendship ever since. We meet at church, but since then we have moved onto other churches and have seen each other sporadically. When we do see each other, its like we never missed a beat.

Now, this pageant was for full-figure women, and about time! Most women aren't even a size 2. Even Marilyn Monroe, who many men drool over, wore a size 16. She was featured in the Herald in Rock Hill, SC and I saw some of the comments. They weren't very nice. I think for some people, if you don't have anything nice to say, just don't say anything at all. I'm sure there is a flaw or something you don't like about yourself that people can talk about.

I just want to say, I think Lakesha is a very beautiful woman inside and out. She is a great friend, sister, encourager, truthful, loyal, and has a big & good heart. She is an extrovert and probably wouldn't care about the negativity people say about her, because she is on cloud nine. Mama, keep doing your thing. You are definitely going places and people are always going to hate. If you have hundreds of haters, than baby you are doing something right! Love you always!

Religious People

Now, religion is a very touchy subject, so I'm going to try to say the politically right things. Ok? So, I have been around people and they have told me that they don't do certain things because they are "religious." For an example, a guy goes to a strip club with his and says he didn't look or didn't go in because he is "religious." Now for me, I would be a little taken back, I don't know about you, but to me that seems a little strange. So, what was the point of him going to the club. Just to say he went, umm.....I don't think so. Its like putting candy in front of a child and the child says he/she didn't touch the candy.

Some people, like me, think when some people call themselves religious they are hiding something or they are being phony. Some people who call themselves religious are the most hypocritical and judgmental people in the world. But on the other hand some people say that if some people call themselves religious to help them get through the day, then let them.

I just feel that instead of saying you are religious just say you are a devote Christian, Catholic, Jew, etc. Maybe I'm wrong and maybe I'm too judgemental. Please let me know what you think about this subject. Thanks!

Law of Attraction

My mom and I just finished watching this movie called the Secret. It was great and uplifting, which was also a book. But there is this great secret all of the greats (such as Martin Luther and Einstein) truely understand. It is called the Law of Attraction, meaning whatever you think the universe will respond by giving you your wish. Its like in the movies, when a person rubs a lamp and a genie pops out saying, "Your wish is my command."

At first, I thought this couldn't work but it actually does. For example, when I was a kid I would always pray to God, "Please get me out of here (New York). This is not the life I want." I also prayed to God, "If I leave for college, I want my mom to come with me." I don't remember how long I prayed for me to get out of New York, but I prayed for two years for my mom to come with me when I left for college. Next thing I know, my mom's new job (only there for 2yrs) decides to send some people to Charlotte, North Carolina because there was going to be a new home base there. This was told to my mom January 1999 and we had to give a reponse by March of 1999. 1999 was the year I was graduating from high school. So, I did get what I wanted. I got out of New York and my mom was coming along with me for the ride.

The main thing about Law of Attraction is if you are grateful for everything you have now, then good will come back onto you. This means, if you are having a bad day, then get out a pen and paper, write down a gratitude list. The list will make you forget why you were even having a bad day. If you can't see yourself writing a list, then listen to the music you like, read your favorite book, or even watch a funny movie. Put yourself in a place where you have good thoughts.

Your thoughts are what shape you and your life. If you have a gloomy way or look at your life half empty, this the lifestyle you are heading into, a chained/caged life. If you are free or look at life half full, then your life and opportunities are limitless. So, I'm encouraging you all to start having happy thoughts. Surround yourselves with positive things/people and positivity will always come straight back to you.

Have you ever had your own example of Law of Attraction? Please tell.....=)

1yr Anniversary Blog

The url for the 15yr old being beat by the houston cops: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JlKmiPCVStc

Valentine's Day

I used to hate this day with a passion. Every time this holiday came around I never had anyone to be with. The one time I had a valentine, that person was with me out of pity. He made me hate it even more. But what is this holiday's real point?

To me, why do you have to have this one day where you show someone you love how much you love them? Shouldn't you show love to people all the time, 365, 24/7? I really think its just a way for the greeting card companies to get more money.

Well, since I have matured, having someone (boyfriend) around to buy me something is not something I long for. I finally got this love thing down. I'm already loved by my family and friends. The one thing I miss about this holiday is when I was a kid my grandparents would buy me a Carvel ice cream cake.I don't need any man to validate who I am as a person. When he comes, he will let me know.

I went out with a group of my girlfriends and I had the time of my life. We didn't bash men, we just enjoyed ourselves and ate a lot. I hope you all have a great day and remember 1 Corth. 13:4-7 tells the true meaning of love. I would love to know how you day went. Or tell me what was the best Valentine's Day you ever had. Thanks!

Entertainment Performances

So, last Sunday during the Super Bowl Half-time the Black Eyed-Peas performed with Slash and Usher. I enjoy the Black Eyed-Peas' music, but that was a crappy performance. Slash and Usher should have done the show without them. The other people that did a good job were the dancers around the stage with the lights glowing on them. When they were synchronized, it looked beautiful.

At times I wonder if there is real talent anymore. The people with the least talent are pushed up front while the ones with the talent are just looked upon. I also think it is a shame that people sell there souls just to be on top. People get pimped out or they pimp themselves out for fame. Is that what society is all about now? Have we pushed our morals to the back so that we can look good on the outside?

A lot of great talent have died and can never be replaced. Luther Vandross, Michael Jackson, Otis Redding, Marvin Gaye, Florence(from the Supremes), Gerald Levart, Jackie Wilson, Rick James and James Brown are all gone. I know there is a great concert in heaven going on right, now! James Brown changed the course of music by creating and composing musical arranges to 1/3 which is 1 bar per 3 beats.

I'm so hoping that the Grammy awards aren't going to be boring this Sunday. I know they are going to have a big tribute to Aretha Franklin as the opener. Its a must see because Jennifer Hudson will be performing in it.

If you were to put you ultimate concert togther, who would be in it dead and/or alive?

Can Women Get Along With Each Other?

I want to talk about a subject that has been on my mind for a while. Now, I'm no prissy chick, I love my sports and just chillin. The one thing I can't understand since elementary school is that some girls/women just can't get along with other girls/women. I always couldn't figure out why many girls at school hated me. I mean they hated me to a point where I didn't even want to go to school and I started hating myself. As, I have grown up I realized so many things about other women, it seems funny.

To me, I think some women are very caddy to one another. Its as if one has to bite the shit out of all the other pups just to be called the "top bitch." Some feel we(women) all have to look one way just to be called beautiful. If we look too eccentric,then we are the black sheep of the group.The other thing I observed is, once we are in a group, we become very clickish. One chick is the dominate and she becomes the head of the group. The other chicks seem to have no opinion of their own and just seem to think the exact way of the dominate. Its as if the dominate is held up on a pedestal.

Now, when men get into the equation, its like we as women are going in for our last meal.We do all these crazy things to look a certain way, for other women? Its like women want you to love to hate them. She wants you to look at her and think,"Yes, I have a man, but I can also get your man,too." Everything is a competition. We poke our chest out, walk around with much arrogance, and we are oblivious to the world around us. Why do we have to look as though we are desperate to get a man? Why do we have to always chase our friends man? Why do we feel the need to make one woman look bad just to get a man?

To me, I think that women can get along, just as soon as some women start feeling defensive towards one another. I think we as women can get along as soon as we realize that having a man is not everything in life. I think, women can get along. What do you think?

Reality Show Junkie

I can't deny it, but I have to have my dose of reality tv. The shows I enjoy to watch are The Real Housewives of Atanta, The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, What Chilli Wants, Brandy & Ray J, and of course Keeping Up With The Kardashians.



I love to watch how the drama unfolds on the housewives show. They are so caddy and fake to one another. I really like Kandi and Sheree from Atlanta. Kandi seems to keep it real all the time. I also enjoy watching her mom. She has much wisdom. At first it seemed to me like Sheree was a gold-digger, but I realized she is a divorced woman who deserves money for putting up with the crazy shit from being married to a professional athlete. She seems to be like, we hate drama and try to stay far away from it. Pheadra is a very intelligent woman who says dumb things. But Kim and Nene have to cracking up all the time. I really don't understand their relationship. One day they are on and the next thing they are telling each other off. I want to say this to Kim: Honey, please stop trying to be a singer. Its just not your fortee. You don't seem to want it that bad because you don't sacrifice and you need to stop smoking.



The woman I like on Beverly Hills is Adrienne, Lisa, Kim, and Kyle. Adrienne and Lisa have much wisdom and teach the other women how to be patient and not get so defensive about little things. Kim and Kyle are sisters who go through a lot of ups and downs and they will eventually get it together. Taylor is a woman I think needs to get out of a marriage if she isn't happy. She doesn't want to get out because she enjoys the lifestyle, but sometimes you have to sacrifice and you will probably get a life you enjoy. Camille is a lady I really don't understand. I'm sorry about her marriage ending in the public. I hope she is ok because she needs to be strong for her children now.



What Chilli wants is a funny show. Chillin has this list that no one can measure up to. I enjoy watching her go on dates and seeing her reaction. I also think that Floyd Mayweather is not the guy for her because he seems to be stuck on himself. You don't want a man like that because they are selfish. Brandy and Ray J's show is funny too. I enjoy watching the two of them and their family. They have a tight net family that many black people rarely see on tv. I hope they continue to be positive.



Lastly, I enjoy the Kardashians. The way they were able to get a tv contract may not have been the best way to get in the industry, but they are very entertaining. I like how they show how families are very crazy at times, but they have each other backs. I hope they continue success too.



Tell me what are your tv gulity pleasures.

Diary of a Tired Black Man

This weekend, since I have netflix, I saw this documentary called Diary of a Mad Black Man. It stars the fine ass Jimmy Jean-Louis. This is the black man's Waiting to Exhale. I found it very interesting. The whole point of the documentary was to show everyday people different scenes, from the view point of a black educated man, of how some black men are treated in reationships and get their reactions. When I saw the scenes for myself, I see why some of these men are angry and they date outside of their race.

Here are a few of the scenes I can remember from the movie:
Scene#1: This educated man is married to a black woman who doesn't work, but takese care of the child and home. She gets up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and sees his underwear on the floor. She gets mad and wakes him up to have an argument about how he needs to learn how to put his underwear in the hamper.

• Is she crazy?


• Doesn't he have to wake up in a few hours to go to work?


• Why have an unnecessary argument just for the sake of arguing?

What would you have done in this situation?

Scene #2: The wife has her friends over for some girl time. The whole time she is bashing her husband because she feels he isn't man enough for her. She is over exaggerating the things he so called does because she has a leash on him. Then she goes on and tells her friends that if they don't have their men in check, they are going to lose them. Its like him against her.

• In the marriage, isn't it supposed to be a team?


• What is the point of bashing your husband in front of your friends?


• Why give your friends the wrong information about marriage?

What would you do in this situation?

Scene #3: So, the arguing for no apparent reason and the degrading caused the black married couple to divorce. So, he comes over with a white woman to come and pick up his child. The ex-wife and her friends meet him at the door to cuss him out and tell him he is a 'no good nigga.' So, he proceeds to tell them that he was a good husband but his wife was so selfish that she didn't realize it. She still lives in the house that he bought and he still pays the morgage and child support. He also cares so much about his child that he comes and picks her up.

Now, what would you have done in this situation?

I was shown how some men feel when they are treated wrongly by a woman. I'm glad that this is out in the open. If you get a chance. you should rent this movie. Please let me know your thoughts. I would love to know. Thanks!

Some Married Men

Now, I have never been married, but in the past weeks I have been getting invites from married men to sleep with them. WTF? Do they think I'm that desperate to have someone? I don't think so! My thing is, why marry if you know that you just want to live the single life? Its not wrong to not get married.

What is this thing that if a married man has a chick on the side, then he is a pimp? Some men think that he's the man if he does. One of my guy friends said that it was an innate thing in a man to cheat. Ummmm.......no! What is wrong with our society? It's not an innate thing for a man to cheat. I know many men who take their vows very seriously. So, what does society have to say about that one?

Even one of my girlfriends said that a man is going to cheat no matter what in a relationship. We (women) need to just accept it. Ummm.....hell no! Now, I know why there is a show called Snapped. I don't blame some women from snapping, but killing is not the best option. Getting a man back means that you aren't over the initial hurt. Just leave him alone because your freedom should be worth more than to get a man back who doesn't care nothing about you. He moved on to the next, and so should you.

So, I think I might just stay single for a little while longer. I wish some men would just be honest and keep their vows. What do you think?

New Year!

Hi everyone. I know it has been 3 months since I have written a blog, but I'm still here! Its a new year and last year was pretty rough for me. I had never seen so many people I knew die last year. I started getting depressed because I felt, if I die, would it be too soon? Would I have impacted people's lives? Will I have done much that God would be satisfied? I just learned that life is so precious and we need to learn to appreciate the people here on earth that are around us and know.

Now that 2011 has begun, it was a rough start. I had to go and take care of family and it had tested my patience. The lessons I have learned from this experience are:
(1) If someone is willing to help you, take the help and learn how to trust.
(2) Make sure I have lived life to the fullest because regrets can make you a cranky & nasty person.
(3) Lastly, everyone in your family is valuable and try to learn about them because you can't go anywhere in life until you know your history.

So, I'm still single and the weirdest thing has happened to me. 2 guys that I have had a relationship in the past have tried to get back with me. Its like they had an epiphany because they say they knew I was a good girl and now they want to be with me. WTF? So, one of them is pissed at me because I don't call him. He told me that he's not the boyfriend type and he kept calling me at 4am. So I told him please stop calling me because I'm not a booty call. Lastly, when my grandma past this idiot texted me on the day of the funeral and asked me what I was doing. I told him I was at my grandma's funeral, all he said was ok. We buried her last April and I didn't hear from until August. So, you know that relationship is done.The second guy is something else. I went out with him in college and he cheated on me with a girl. Now they have 2 kids and he wants me back. What do you think?


Now I have begun a new lifestyle change for the new year. I'm going on a cruise for my 30th in November and I want to look good. So, last week in Charlotte when we were all were stuck in the house for a few days, may not have been the best time for me to start this change. But in reality I think it was a good thing. It was a test to see if I was going to eat fruit instead of eating what I really wanted was the chips and the ice cream. I have to keep the focus though.

So, now I'm hoping all the craziness is behind me and my 29th year is not going to be filled with drama. Thanks for letting me share with you.